Whether you choose to vaccinate or not, your kid is going to die. So is mine. Hopefully, its not until have lived long wonderful lives. But the reality is, my vaccinated child could die in a car accident tomorrow. Your unvaccinated kid could die from measles complications in a few weeks. Both our kids could go to school in a few years and get shot by some pyscho.
Good grief, Bri. Why you gotta be such a buzz kill? Are you trying to freak us out even more? No, I’m not. I’m reminding you that no matter what you do, your child’s life is not in your hands. The way some of these parent’s are talking, you’d think that a decision for or against vaccination was an instant matter of life and death. My son’s days on this earth are not determined by me or my choice to vaccinate. There are determined by God alone. All I can do, all any of us can do, is make the most informed, best possible decision for our families and then live it up. Life is way to short to make decisions based on fear.
Look I get it, fear is easy. Everywhere we look the media is telling us about a horrible kidnapping, and some mom is blogging about mold she found in a Capri Sun. And we love our kids so freaking much. We want to protect them from every possible harm. But we can’t. When we jump at things that go bump in the night, we teach our children to walk through this life afraid instead of empowered. We teach them that it’s their job to control things, not God’s. We teach them that its better to take the safe boring road rather than to take great risks and experience great success and great failure. We build a generation of robots instead of a generation of revolutionaries.
So do your kiddos and fellow moms a favor and stop the fear mongering. Don’t share those over emotional blog posts that lack scientific evidence. But keep sharing those articles that are fact based, because we need more of those! Better yet, do some research and create your own!
Don’t cancel that trip to Disneyland just because there is a slight chance you’ll come in contact with measles (unless of course you have pre existing conditions that would make measles deadly, in which case maybe do Knott’s Berry Farm instead).
When you share your personal experiences, don’t present them as the final word but rather as one possible outcome, and encourage your friends to seek counsel from multiple sources. While you’re at it, how about finding some moms and bloggers outside your usual circle and getting some advice from them?
And lastly, once a mom, or any person for that matter, has made her decisions don’t use fear and guilt to change her mind. If it bothers you that much that her kids aren’t vaccinated, then don’t invite them to your house (for the record, although I am strongly in the pro vaccination camp, healthy non vaccinated children are welcome in my home.)